Friday, April 6, 2012

ENVY

Are you delirious with envy?  Sometimes Green with jealousy?  Read on...

"Envy's a coal comes hissing hot from Hell",  by Philip James Bailey. 

Definitions of Envy.  
As a noun:   A feeling of discontented or resentful longing aroused by someone else's possessions, qualities, or luck.
As a verb:   Desire to have a quality, possession, or other attribute belonging to (someone else)

I confess once in a while I feel the sharp piercing teeth of ENVY gnaws at me.  Especially when I start measuring myself against other women.   

Their success
Their shiny straight hair
Their matchless beauty and silky soft skin
Their size 0 bodies even after how many babies
Their big houses, nice jobs and hard working husbands that brings in the money.


That I forget what I have.  Yes!  Overlook, ignore and take for granted the blessings that God has blessed me with.  Because I'm too busy weighing, measuring and trying to balance what I have against the seemingly good fortunes of other women.


This past weekend, Elder. Jeffrey R. Holland took a stand on this matter.  He said, 


"May I plead with us... not to feel envious—when good fortune comes to another person.  We are not diminished when someone else is added upon. We are not in a race against each other to see who is the wealthiest or the most talented or the most beautiful or even the most blessed. The race we are really in is the race against sin, and surely envy is one of the most universal of those."

My head nodded in agreement and my heart repentant at just how forgetful and ungrateful I can be.   Nevermind that the Almighty has always given heed to my every beck and callYes,  He grants me everything I pray and  asks for.  There are times where a "NO" is the answer.  Usually it's a,  "No, not now" and makes me wait for the right time.  I have learn to trust in Him that He knows what is best for me and that everything happens for a reason.  I rejoice in that knowledge.

Later in his speech Eld. Holland said something so funny that got me shaking with laughter:

"...envy is a mistake that just keeps on giving. Obviously we suffer a little when some misfortune befalls us, but envy requires us to suffer all good fortune that befalls everyone we know! What a bright prospect that is—downing another quart of pickle juice every time anyone around you has a happy moment!"

The vermin of ENVY and JEALOUSY can be self induced.  Polluting our hearts with hatred and resentment.  Clouding our minds with dreads and bitterness.  It's a torturous and tormenting feeling that we can all do well without.  We simply do not have the time to dwell in them.

In conclusion, let me end with one last lesson from Eld. Holland:

"So lesson number one from the Lord’s vineyard: coveting, pouting, or tearing others down does not elevate your standing, nor does demeaning someone else improve your self-image. So be kind, and be grateful that God is kind. It is a happy way to live."

WA LA.   For this Easter Weekend.  Let us rejoice in His blessings and Be grateful for everything that we have and let there be no room for envy in our hearts and our minds.  Abolish any envious feeling or jealousy from our hearts and have the Love of God and of the Love of our Fellowmen light up our lives.   

7 comments:

  1. It's so hard not to compare each other. But they probably envy you as much as you envy them!

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  2. Thank you for your thoughts on this! I sure loved Elder Holland's talk, and all of conference!

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  3. Super hard not to compare and be envious. :(

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  4. Envy is really a bad thing. The more we compare ourselves with others, the worse we feel. There will always be someone who is better than us in the same way that there will always be someone worse than we are. So I guess we'd be giving ourselves a break and it would be far simpler if we just don't compare. Envy can never bring anything good.

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  5. I used to feel that way when I first started looking at Pinterest. Then I told myself that I did not want or need anything on that site. Now, I just scroll through and try to see it as people's talents that should be shared to create and spread genius and creativity.

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  6. I seriously wish I could post this on a piece of paper at our local playground where it seems like many of the moms are constantly in competition with one another.

    Aren't we supposed to be a sisterhood? Lifting one another up in times of hardship? Encouraging one another instead of trying to one up each other??

    I just don't understand this mentality of other mothers.

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  7. Love this! And yes, it is so so easy to get envious- but as soon as you do you forget all you have. Thank you

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